Yesterday I had to make a hard parenting decision.
I had to take my son’s birthday party away.
He had been warned several times throughout the week that one more show of his temper would postpone his birthday. Yesterday, when he lost his temper, he lost his birthday party.
I was the mom that had to call the other mom and tell her I had to cancel the sleepover.
It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done.
It’s so hard when we have to make those tough decisions. It’s easier to give in. I’ve been known to say, “If you do that again…” “Next time…” “One more chance…” too much. It was time to make sure he understood that I meant business.
Bad choices bring bad consequences.
Last night in Bible study, someone commented that they often how God feels when we mess up.
Today, I was feeling pretty low about last night’s events and the sleepover that wasn’t going to happen today so I sought out a dear friend and mentor. Her words to me were: don’t you think that’s how God feels when we make choices and decisions that aren’t in His will?
How many times do I have to hear that before I realize God had some words for me. How often do I make a decision that doesn’t glorify God? How sad must He be when He sees me lose my temper or not give my all? That’s deep.
It’s hard to do the right thing sometimes. I know in my heart, the decision was right. I know that someday (probably when he is a father) he will realize how it hurt me more than it hurt him to take away his evening of fun.
I also know that I disappoint my heavenly Father on a daily basis. We’ve all had some lessons to learn this weekend.
Something else my wonderful friend/mentor said to me today that she realized a long time ago that her children were her biggest ministry. Chew on that for a minute.
It’s funny how I made a decision thinking I would teach my son a lesson and I probably learned more than he did.
Parenting is hard. We do a good job of trying to make everything look perfect on social media but who does that help? Instead of trying to impress everyone, what if we got real? Instead of getting offended by everything what if we focused on our common goals and interests? What if we lifted others up instead of judging? What would that world look like?
We celebrated his birthday tonight. It wasn’t how any of us had planned but it did happen. We will continue to celebrate with family all weekend long.
Someday he will thank me.